Monday, April 13, 2009

Etiquette Inquiry



Though this topic is not directly design related, I do feel that it is important. I believe a lady should be classy and lovely, no matter where she goes, who she sees or talks towhether it is in the library, boutique, or the supermarket. I am grateful that my mother taught me to be respectful of others, particularly my elders. I love Audrey Hepburn's class and flair and often look to her for guidance in many situations...thus leading to my question, something that has been bothering me for some time, and I hope you might be able to help.

There have been instances where I have been in a lineup or at a counter paying for my purchase or service, and the person behind me has either (a) stood right beside me at the counter or (b) is so close behind me that if I were to turn around, I would bump right into them!

More recently, I was at the spa paying for my hair appointment, making future appointments and inquiries, and had a lady 30 years or so my senior, stand right beside me at the counter, as if she were with me. I turned to her, surprised, and said "oh, hello" as if to let her know that I felt slightly uncomfortable. The lineup was clearly a good two feet behind me, however, she paid no heed to my polite response to her lack of tact. Have you ever experienced this frustration? Friends, do you have any suggestions on what to say, or how to deal with this? I could really use some advice! /image link/

16 comments:

  1. Yes I understand your frustation but that doesn't bother me as bad as when I am talking to someone and they are so in my face that I move away and then they just keep getting closer. I can't stand this! I can't even concentrate on what they are saying because all I am thinking about is getting them out of my face. And when their breath is kicking OMG it's really bad. Ok Maybe I should stop now. But sorry I don't really have much good advice except move over, up or wherever you can get some breathing room. Daisy~

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  2. Oh I love this photo too BTW! I have never seen it before. I might have to steal it if that's ok and but on my blog's sidebar. Daisy~

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  3. Oh dear, I know exactly what you mean, Daisy! I have a collection of pretty books pertaining to etiquette for women in today's modern society:

    This is the book:
    http://www.amazon.com/Fabulous-Girls-Guide-Decorum/dp/0767910109

    Also, the pic is from one of Audrey's less known but fabulous movies: "How to Steal a Million". It's a must-see! She looks absolutely stunning throughout the entire movie! Of course, feel free to post that pretty pic :)

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  4. thanks for your comment. i will also add your blog to my links ...

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  5. Gently extract a lovely embroidered handkerchief from your bag, say excuse me please and begin to sneeze in the most lady-like manner, hanky covering sneeze of course!
    If the offending person does not step back then one must simply endure.

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  6. Anonymous, you have me laughing right now, so much so, my cheeks hurt! (but in a good way) This is priceless, I love it!

    Oddly enough, I was vintage shopping a few weeks ago and purchased a soft pink linen hanky...will try out this genius tactic- thank you!

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  7. This is a tough one! My "personal space" is planet sized, which doesn't help. I usually try to put some physical object between me and the person. If I have a large tote (which I frequently do!) I'll shift it to that shoulder, turned a bit sideways (you have to step forward first - no bumping! That's even worse than space invasion). Sometimes I've said "awfully crowded here today, isn't it!" but that rarely works - these folks are usually too clueless to pick up social subtleties. In one desperate situation (creepy man) I faked a sneezing fit - and one time I asked for more space from a totally pda couple (who were so close, I felt like I was getting the love too), but the man cursed me out! Oh well. Sometimes, you just have to grin and bear it. Or comment loudly on the horrible, contagious disease you have :)

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  8. I wish I knew! Seems like so many people these days are just not aware of what is going on around them! I don't know how these people don't feel a need to have their own personal space - oh wait, most are probably too busy on their cell phones...grrr.

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  10. I hate when people invade my personal space. I find it to be absolutely rude. I understand if you're in a a crowded place, then it cannot be avoided, but otherwise... I just don't understand why people do it. I usually endure it or leave...this kind of situation is impossible to avoid,everywhere you go there's always going to be someone who misunderstand the boundaries of closeness with a stranger :)

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  11. i too dont like when someone stands on top of me. i especially in situations where ive been at work handling money and ive had people stand right beside me, or when ive been handing money to someone else and another person walks right up and demands my attention.

    but ive learned that there are really people out there who lack that understanding to respect other people's time and space.

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  12. oh, i don't know if i should admit it, but i usually flip my hair, or swing my purse 'accidentally' in their face. it usually helps a bit. i can't handle people with no regard to personal space!!

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  14. I dare you :) (I will laugh if you get the opportunity!)

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  15. Hahahaha I always experience this! And I totally do the purse swinging thing, lol.

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